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Shaking Hands: When, Why & How


Today let’s look at shaking hands.
This seems like a small thing, doesn’t it?
Why fuss over such a common occurrence?

Well, it’s because shaking hands is so common that it’s important to do it correctly.

Your handshake says a lot about you- whether you’re at the bank to apply for a loan or a cocktail party meeting new neighbors, you always want to put your best foot (actually hand!) forward.

Shaking hands is one of the first social skills I teach young people in my classes and workshops.

Elementary school-aged and older children should shake hands when meeting grownups. Here’s my student, Carly, looking confident and sharp after our handshake lesson:
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When to Shake Hands
Avoid that awkward moment of wondering- do I shake or not? Just extend your right hand with confidence. Offering a handshake always makes a good impression. Use your handshake when meeting new people, to say hello and goodbye, to congratulate others, and to seal an agreement.

The 7 Basics of a Good Handshake

  • First and foremost: no dead fish, wimpy handshakes, and no harsh vice grips. One communicates you’re not confident, and the other intimidates people. Your grip should be firm and comfortable.
  • Your elbow is the hinge. You shake from the elbow, not your wrist or shoulder.
  • Extend your right hand. You should be parallel to the other person. Good posture matters.
  • Handshakes require eye contact. Look into the other person’s eyes and add in your smile.
  • A handshake is only 2-3 “shakes.” Don’t go on and on shaking hands. 1-2-3 and drop hands.
  • Whenever possible, stand to shake hands. Standing shows respect and that you’re truly interested in the person you’re meeting and greeting.

Let’s test your handshaking knowledge:

  1. A man should not extend his hand first to a lady. He only shakes her hand if she extends her’s first. True or False?
  2. It’s okay to decline shaking hands with a proper explanation. True or False?
  3. Never shake hands while wearing gloves. True or False?
  4. Ladies are not obligated to shake hands when meeting and greeting. True or False?

Answers:

  1. FALSE. We’re not in the 1950s. Ladies can and should initiate a handshake when meeting and greeting, and a man should do the same.
  2. TRUE. There are two acceptable reasons to decline a handshake; sickness or injury. If you’re sick, simply say, “It’s so good to meet you. Excuse me for not shaking hands, but I have a cold and don’t want to pass it on to you.”
  3. FALSE. You may shake hands wearing gloves if you are outside and wearing them because of the weather. Once indoors, take off your glove to shake hands.
  4. FALSE. Refer to #1.
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